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Did We Date? Take My Survey!

Posted in Birds & the Bees by dagnydarling on March 23, 2011

I’ve been a disgracefully absentee blogger of late.  I’m not sure how much better the current situation is- seeing as I’m blogging quite lamely from a Starbucks that I despise (drinking Green Tea— cuz I’m healthy!) and finally getting back into it.  It’s quite possible that the only way for me to be any more cliche would be if I were wearing all baggy clothes and a beret.  But I don’t own a beret, so the sweater and jeans from high school will have to suffice.

Where have I been, you ask?  Jamaica.  Clubbing.  Meeting my future husband.  Rescuing puppies.  Except I haven’t (ever) done any of those things, and instead I regret to inform all 3 of my readers that I was at California Republican Convention (seriously), moving (suck it, Charlie the miracle dog), and fuck only knows where else.  But shit, I’ve been busy.  And now I’m just tired and wondering when I’ll have enough time to wash my hair.

I’m in a Starbucks I hate right now because I have exactly 24 minutes to kill before I go volunteer with the homeless baby that I love more than any pair of my shoes (serious!), and because this is the only place with wi-fi nearby.  And of course, because irony has made me its bitch, I’m sitting in the exact god-damned same seat that I’ve had a converstation in that I would love to forget.  Fabulous.

From this very bench I was told something along the lines of why I was no longer in the relationship that I so desperately tried to be in… to absolutely no avail.  And currently, I’m sort of kind of on the verge of a new relationship, and there hasn’t been a very significant gap between the two events. (Except a girl just walked in with the greatest boots and she’s wearing those tall socks and she has great hair and she’s so cute… ugh. Damn everyone who is better looking than me right now.  That includes you, RuPaul).

Anyway, why am I always striving to be in a relationship?  It’s practically a full-time job, only it costs me money and I can’t argue my way into it.  Trust me, I’ve definitely tried.  I’m a relationship type of girl.  I get off on routine, commitment, facebook’s “in a relationship” status.  If there was an I ❤ monogamy shirt, I’d be sporting it.  My friends, the large majority of them, are either married or absolutely single.  Both are irritatingly ecstatic.  I- on my island of awkward middle-ground, facebook stalking drama- am not.  What gives? (update: adorable girl with great boots has an adorable boyfriend with great hair… I’m going to burn this Starbucks down once I’m done with the internet).

And maybe I could be in a committed relationship right now.  I’m not really good at this stuff, but I’m pretty sure that it’s a possibility with the President (we like him).  But when going through the possiblity of having the “so, like, what are we” conversation, it occurred to me that he might actually say “yes.”  (I realize that I did not exactly pose a yes/no question, but roll with me.  I only have 8 minutes now… it takes time to italicize shit!) And the potential of being in a committed relationship frightened me.  No kidding, a sort of, ummm wtf, kind of feeling washed over me.

My last relationships have not exactly been stellar, or even close to “maybe that was a good idea.”  So instead of feeling like I’ve learned a lot, I’m feeling a little bit like I’m just working with damaged goods when it comes to the girl my future boyfriend is gonna get.  Which makes me sad for him.  Which then makes me sad for me, because really, who thinks that way?!

In order to counteract that lack of knowledge increase from the past 3 breakups then, I came up with a brilliant, albeit awful idea.  How phenomenal would it be to give a survey to your exes?!  You don’t even have to tell me that this is great, because I’m pretty sure (like my ideas about taking on 9,000 volunteer activities, dating people who are awful, and living with Charlie the Miracle Dog) that it is.  Naturally, I got started on some questions for my survey-targets.

1. What was your favorite memory of/with me?

2. Your biggest pet peeve about me?

3. What was the most important thing you learned about women/relationships from me?

4. What did your mom say about me? (I might will regret asking this I’m pretty sure of some of them).

5.  What were your friends opinions of me/us?

6. If you could describe our relationship in one word, what word would it be?

7. What advice do you have for my future boyfriends? (Also will regret most likely)

8. Do you think we should have broken up sooner/later/still be together?

9. Why?

10. What in God’s name convinced you dating me was a good idea in the first place?!

The best part about this idea is that I am totally sober, completely serious and absolutely curious.  If I had the balls (or good relationships with my exes currently) to ask any of them, I would.  Also, I’m delerious from lack of sleep, and may rethink the brilliance of this when I reread it in 4 days.  But honestly, you know that saying “you can bring a horse to water but you can’t get them drunk”— or whatever it is— it absolutely aplies here.  I can go through experience after brutal break up after great first kiss with every guy West of the Mississippi, but until I’m willing to learn from it, I’m just swapping saliva and losing a lot of tears.

Pass it out to your exes before I do, and tell me how it goes.  Thanks for being my test-dummy.

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  1. Heather said, on March 23, 2011 at 2:05 am

    Hahaha. This seriously made my night. I laughed with you all the way through, and seriously want to do this. Although I only have ONE ex, and I really do not want to talk to him. at all. He had his chance with me, waited until I was in love with him and IN THE HOSPITAL from an asthma attack to decide to give me the silent treatment and dump me.

    This blog post seriously rocked my socks. Thank you!

    • dagnydarling said, on March 23, 2011 at 4:56 am

      He sounds… rad. Screw the survey, give him anthrax in an envelope. Also cliche.

      • Heather said, on March 23, 2011 at 1:40 pm

        xD You have excellent comedic timing with your writing…

        It is like I can hear you saying it, and I don’t even know you. I love that!

        Anyway, I don’t think he’s worth the time or money involved in sending an envelope. Yeah. Even without anthrax.

  2. k-dawg said, on March 23, 2011 at 12:17 pm

    HAHA DUDE. You’re my hero. I think I may actually pass that survey out to a few exes via FB. and why not? Those are all very valid and important questions that most likely never get answered because after a breakup everyone’s all, “dude, I gotta win the Who’s-Doing-Better-After-the-Breakup Game”, not bothering to really delve into the important shit about why it didn’t work in the first place. Not to mention half of us chicks and half of the dudes out there sometimes have no idea what REALLY happened anyway. A good ol’ fashioned survey would bring some clarity to an otherwise possibly delusional situation.

    PS- Good luck with the Prez!

    • dagnydarling said, on March 23, 2011 at 5:27 pm

      Do it. Please, for me. Then send me the results. If they’re not horrific, I might do it. However, 2 of my exes may still read this– hopefully they take the hint and just take the survey for me.

      This is absolutely ridiculous, by the way.

  3. Berg said, on March 23, 2011 at 5:22 pm

    As one of your best friends I will take this survey and see what happens:

    1. What was your favorite memory of/with me?
    Too many to count… but I’ll go with drunk slip-n-slide on the sorority house kitchen floor after the bars were closes with OLD fraternity boys.

    2. Your biggest pet peeve about me?
    You disappear… just disappear!

    3. What was the most important thing you learned about women/relationships from me?
    They are strong… no seriously… and pretty badass! (as a woman that is one of the many thiings you taught me I can be!)

    4. What did your mom say about me? (I might will regret asking this I’m pretty sure of some of them).
    My mom never met you but I think shed like you…

    5. What were your friends opinions of me/us?
    Well since most of my friends are guys… at first they are like “this girl is intense”, “I am sort of intimidated” but then they think “shes still a little intense but in a sarcastic funny way” (mind you that these people I am thinking of right now are no one you want to date so who gives a shit what they think!)

    6. If you could describe our relationship in one word, what word would it be?
    fucktardish!

    7. What advice do you have for my future boyfriends? (Also will regret most likely)
    <— dont mess with us! ha, yeah idk how to apply this to our friendship

    8. Do you think we should have broken up sooner/later/still be together?
    ALWAYS TOGETHER!

    9. Why?

    10. What in God’s name convinced you dating me was a good idea in the first place?!
    Well at first I wanted to be your friend… then my drunken "that girl" actions had me visiting you weekly in a situation I did not want to… then shit just went crazy and I realized that this i kind of is a "oppsites attract" situation… and it works…

  4. […] love Love LOVE, though, is for anyone to tell me about their first love (and then to give them THIS SURVEY).  I’ll settle for just the story about your first love […]

  5. sharonvogiatzi said, on March 25, 2011 at 11:19 am

    I’m kinda tempted to do this… But scared of the results/weirdness at the same time…

    And I agree with Heather- “You have excellent comedic timing with your writing… It is like I can hear you saying it…” Exactly!

  6. EricDoesNotExist said, on March 25, 2011 at 9:38 pm

    As you official FOURTH reader (aren’t you happy?) I will say that question 9 is probably the best question anyone has ever asked. And also, I’m irony’s bitch a lot. But then, isn’t everyone?


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